Brenda - Emotional maturity is at the core of my aspirations in recovery as well. I see the connection in what you share to emotional maturity.
I found, for me, that any disconnect with the people close to me that I felt in early recovery has been temporary. As I get healthier, my boundaries get healthier - and paradoxically my ability to connect with others gets stronger.
Captain - The acceptance passage is one of my personal favorites.
Gilmer - Are you Catholic?
So much love, support and food for thought here.