Thank you to all those that replied. I was feeling pretty good until my 11 year old daughter just said she was sad because they aren't getting to see mom allot....... I had to explain that right now I don't have allot of trust in her because if what she did on that Wednesday before Thanksgiving, along with her past. I told her it's on to be upset, with me even, but to know that I am doing what I'm doing because it is in everyone's best interest, not to "get back at mom" or to be mean. She understands allot for 11,and even knows everything that had happened in the last 4 years, and most vividly the last 18 months.......but for mom, and most likely me if roles were reversed, she is quick to forgive and forget. I told her that I don't mind them going to McDonald's or something, but I can't let them go to her new apartment or spend the night anytime soon. I feel awful......