biminiblue

I don't know - you'll have to make that determination for yourself.

I think if there is any doubt in your mind, you don't go.

I didn't usually avoid things (events or places) in early days, but I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I wasn't going to pick up a drink - so places weren't going to cause me to drink and if I'd thought they would I wouldn't have gone.

I do have a couple sort of "rules" of engagement. I don't go to events that are strictly about drinking such as wine tastings or parties that aren't centered around something else. If it's just a party for the sake of a party - like a Christmas party? I pass on those unless there is going to be some huge food spread. I also take my own transportation to all events where there is going to be alcohol. I like to leave at the first signs of loud, obnoxious drunk behavior by anyone.