Originally Posted by
Tommyh 
old thread but a good thread
in step 10 we can go back to our sex inventory and borrow 2 questions
1-where was I at fault?
2-what should I have done instead?
after prayer,I answer these 2 questions.I see question 2 as God`s will for me.A old sponsor of mine used to tell me,Tommy,ask God to forgive you and take you to better things[His plans for me(question 2) vs my problems(my self reliance question 1)].Go talk to them if you feel like amends are necessary and get on with the business of living.
That way I see where my self reliance popped back into my life for a short while causing trouble.
Tommyh, thank you, I just saw this post now.
I must've driven my sponsor crazy because I need everything spelled out for me and she just didn't know how to. (I imagine it's probably like telling someone how to tie their shoes....)
Let's just say reading your reply gave me a great lightbulb moment!!!