My experience with my husband when I was sober before was his resentment that I wasn't his drinking buddy anymore. I literally separated myself as much as possible. I stayed in the house and did my things, like clean and cook and the kid and the bills. He stayed out in his mancave (garage) and drank, smoked, and watched Netflix. Even though we still did some things together like have dinner, he became increasingly angry.
I've literally chosen him over my health the past few years and it's a sad thing to be there. I hope we both find the strength we need for ourselves.