I feel like I'd be abandoning him
it is amazing how often that exact statement is repeated here by loved ones. verbatim. we develop this mixed up belief system that the alcoholic cannot survive without us - we infantalize them in our minds, so when we think of leaving them, we think we are leaving small children.
the FACTS are we are not dealing with 3 year olds. these ADULTS are perfectly capable to taking care of themselves. and making their own decisions. they have perfected the art of using US to that end and will either find someone else to take over and figure it out for themselves.
we too will be just fine. we have been thinking and operating as a solo pilot for a very long time.......we lost our wingman long long ago.