Originally Posted by Smarie78

Once a woman in Alanon told me when I said "I don't know why I don't hate him even with this", and she said "don't worry honey...you haven't been abused enough". Well, all I can is that from experience, you will just keep on pushing that bottom. My A was never physically violent with me but I suffered multiple bouts of verbal and emotional assault from him to where I felt physically threated at times. It's amazing what a raging dry drunk will do to your feeling of safety when they turn into victims and the rage explodes out of them. He kicked and threw things and I would retreat and sit there in stunned silence. Yet, it was never enough.