Hey, lizatola. It seems that the longer I live, the more I observe people--often men, but not always--who are just emotionally closed off. It's as though they would prefer everything to be even keel, no highs or lows, but no joyfulness either. This is a fine state if they are in relationships with similarly-minded others, but when one partner wants more and doesn't feel their emotional needs are being met, it's eventually trouble. Only you can judge what is acceptable in an SO, but it's perfectly okay to want more than you feel you are getting.