"had many fights due to my drinking, however I feel like there had to be something else we could've done to fix things as we never tried............."
Eddy,
my own experience was one of not understanding why we didn't do a, b, c or d, or seeing that we could have, might have, and I was willing but they were ornery...
not until I had been sober quite a while could I begin to really grasp that without sobriety nothing could really be "fixed". since I was broken, so to speak, nothing between me and significant others could be on a really even keel until I had that most basic foundation.
stick around, and if you stay sober you'll have a shot at fixing some stuff. better odds, for sure.