Just yesterday he said to me something about being patient in regards to the disease. My response to him was "I have been patient for the entire 18 years of our marriage, I'm tired". I know recovery takes time but I don't see the drive in him to recover l
XAH told me that I had "rushed to divorce" and "hadn't given him a chance." This was after 19 years of marriage, about 18-1/2 of which he spent lying to me about one addiction or another (first thing was lying about smoking cigs, maybe 6 months after we were married).
Now granted, I didn't know what was going on right from the get-go, but the first time I learned that there were drinking problems was
at least 8 years before the divorce, probably more like 9. Oh, and he told me many times that he WOULD stop drinking, "just not on YOUR schedule."
Divorced not quite a year and a half--he's still drinking. Guess he hasn't penciled that in yet in the DayRunner...