Your post gives me hope, so glad you can break out and dance!
I am in the process of leaving. My AH accuses me of having someone else often. Surely it couldn't be the addiction that is more important to him than me that is causing me to leave...
I am convinced that a particularly venomous shouting at I received from AH caused me to get shingles at age 40. I was under some other stress, a new job in a new neighborhood, but it was his vicious yelling at me (while withdrawing of course) that pushed my body over the edge. Glad you are in a better place to take care of yourself!