knowthetriggers

Hey Refiner - not sure where to start but a quick recap - On May 31st he checked himself into the hospital saying he couldn't do it anymore and needed help. Which we all know if the first step. He was in the hospital three days shy of a month. Came home and was doing well, even set up his own therapy appointments. He is not an AA fan so I thought just him taking the initiative to set up the therapist meeting was a mighty big step. He convinced himself he WAS DONE with the drinking.

I can tell you that the support he had at his work was overwhelming although I had a funny feeling they would somehow mark this against him, it was the work environment he was in, but anyway they did support him and allowed him to attend his sessions, no questions. He lost over 50 lbs and started to be a very active participant in our family. He wasn't just "there". The change in him was awesome and the girls loved it as they had never seen this side of him before. I had because he was like this while we were dating and the first year or so of our marriage.

Anyway - something shady happened at the office that he was eventually blamed for (very long story). He was suspended for three days. I could see he was unsettled with that but he didn't lose his job. He said on the third day of the suspension is when he chose to drink again. He was a few days shy of his 5 months being sober. Needless to say he went to work one morning and his boss noticed his behavior, he failed a breathalyzer and he was fired on the spot.

The very next day he had surgery on his shoulder and was given narcotics (I know right). Since that day he has not done one damn thing to help himself. So I have taken action to protect myself and the girls. I have an update and will share shortly.