old thread but a good thread
in step 10 we can go back to our sex inventory and borrow 2 questions
1-where was I at fault?
2-what should I have done instead?
after prayer,I answer these 2 questions.I see question 2 as God`s will for me.A old sponsor of mine used to tell me,Tommy,ask God to forgive you and take you to better things[His plans for me(question 2) vs my problems(my self reliance question 1)].Go talk to them if you feel like amends are necessary and get on with the business of living.
That way I see where my self reliance popped back into my life for a short while causing trouble.