a couple lines from the BB come to mind
Therefore, we are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would needlessly sacrifice others to save himself from the alcoholic pit.
There may be some wrongs we can never fully right. We don't worry about them if we can honestly say to ourselves that we would right them if we could.
and an important one,imo
As God's people we stand on our feet; we don't crawl before anyone
I hope your not beating yourself up over this,J. reads to me like something to give to God and let it stay there.