Originally Posted by
SnazzyDresser 
I'm kinda mystified by this whole topic. SR has always seemed crazy nice to me, almost to a fault. I'm sure not picking up a mean vibe in the threads I'm reading, and I read most of them in Newcomers and also Alcoholism.
People often seem much harder on themselves that the people commenting/encouraging; that's the pattern I notice most often.
That's because it truly is just words on a screen, and someone could very well BE trying to insult me, and I can still choose to frame it in a positive light. That is not as likely a scenario as the possibility the reader is taking things more personally/negatively than they are intended by the poster.
Sometimes we have absolutely no control over how we process what's coming in.. we are what we are.