Sketcher,dear,you don't need to be here.Getting involved with married folks is trouble.Married,,hands off.Treat others as you would want to be treated,is a great way to start over.Since you are already in it,You say that he still loves her.How he treats her,will be how he treats you.Sounds harsh,but its the truth,of why would he treat you,any, better than his wife?Because you love him?She loved him too.The sickness continues,Until he comes to grips and gets help.This is his sickness,.He himself owns this.And by your post,his actions ARE,that he is not treating you good.Believe his actions,they are the truth.
You can dust yourself off,and start a whole new life.New beginnings.Recovery for you,with the Al-anon program.You are worthy.You are worthy of true love.With another who is free to give this love to you.You are worthy of recovery.
Let go,let God work into your life.
My prayers are with you,God Bless,take care!!!!!!!