Thank you Brenda. Yes alcohol messes with peoples' minds. So true...Please know I don't judge you for any of your actions. I can understand about these things because I've been in many situations in which I've had to lay down very firm boundaries and stick to them or it could lead me to a place of destruction.
Consider this: People who have been sexually abused usually don't have healthy boundaries. Is that their fault? I don't think so. It's likely they don't know HOW to have healthy boundaries. They been violated, in many cases by someone close to them that should be trustworthy, your father in your case. But it can be learned. Typically, sexual abuse victims either have no boundaries, no clue how to establish healthy boundaries, OR...they are so guarded they will not trust anyone or let anyone be intimate with them, which can adversely affect their relationship fulfillment(s).