Marie, I hope when she gets her "shots across the bow", so to speak, that no lasting damage is done.
It can be very powerful to believe that you are "the only one" who understands a certain person, that you are so good and magical and life-changing that your mere presence can turn a raging, damaged man into a kind and gentle friend.
It's also pure and utter BS, as most of us who've been around the block here at SR know.
I'm sorry this is happening to someone you love, and I hope you can somehow find serenity in spite of all the other whirling emotions you are feeling.