Originally Posted by
maia1234 
you don't really need to have a label on someone who has issues with alcohol.
If drinking is causing problems, then it's causing problems.
I was married to an alcoholic for 25 years. He passed away. Never again. I saw the red flags waving with a potential partner, and moved on. You need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you.
I'm sure you love her. I love or have loved all kinds of people who weren't or will never be my partner. Love, for me, is no longer enough. For a life partner, there has to be a common outlook and morality and lifestyle. My friends' drinking, financial skills, desire for children or lack thereof, do not impact my life the way a partner's would.
Relationships aren't reform school. This is who she is. You can accept her for who she is and the limitations that presents, or decide that while you love her, the two of you aren't meant to ride off into the sunset together.