Welcome!
My #1 suggestion? Take a balls to the wall approach to making sobriety your #1 priority.
Do EVERYTHING you can think of to keep your sobriety important to you. Make it a serious goal every day. If you can stack up a few days of meeting your goal, you will start to feel more and more rewarded for hitting those goals.
Wake up: set goal to be sober
During the day: research and apply all the tools you can.
Before bed: recognize how awesome you are for meeting that goal.
Soon those daily accomplishments turn into weekly. And before you can blink an eye, you're onto monthly milestones.
Some things that worked for me:
- posting here every day, multiple times a day.
- set a mantra like get "incontrol" then changed my log in's and passwords to serve as a constant reminder.
- focused more on moving forward than getting over. I started a new life vs leaving an old.
- diet, water, exercise. Huge savior.
- go to some AA mtgs. Visit at least 3 different meetings and hide in the back if you want. But go.
- learn about "riding the wave" and "playing it forward" . Huge help. There's a sticky about those tools. Learn them.
- focus on getting healthy.
- accountability. Here or AA or family or a friend. Anyone who you can declare your desire to quit and talk to honestly.
It's sooo much better being sober. I'm super psyched for ya!