Babyswiss

Hello everyone!

I am new to this blog and I wanted to join up to get further insight about the possibilities that could arise in my marriage.

I fell in love with someone in recovery (alcohol and drugs) and I am not. I've never done a drug and I've never been much of a drinker so naturally, I feel very comfortable with someone who does not do these things either.

My fiancé is so caring, strong, and active in AA. He helps many others and has no desire to drink or pick up again. I'm a smoker and he won't even smoke a cigarette, although I am smoking around him. He's only had the urge once around me and he had to walk away for a minute. He is always there for me when I need him
most and talks through any disagreement we may have. I admire him.

But My parents have chosen to not talk to me anymore because I plan on marrying him. He truly is a wonderful man and I love him with all of my heart. My family does not approve because he is in recovery and because he is renting the house that we live in. My parents refuse to acknowledge that we will be getting married and whenever I was around them in the past, they never asked about my relationship or if I was even happy. It hurts so much.

He comes from a large family that is very nice and practices forgiveness. My family consists of just my dad, mum, and sister - there are more extended family members but my parents stopped talking to them over ten years ago for reasons I don't quite know because I was young when this all happened.

I wake up every day feeling like ****. I just want them to see this man for who he is. He is a man that loves me, supports me dreams, and brings me serenity. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him and start a family with him. But as far as the wedding goes, I'm not even excited because I want my family to be there. I don't even want to get married at this point because it upsets me that my family won't be a part of it. I love them unconditionally but this is hurting my heart too much. They refuse to get to know him or his parents. I don't understand. I just want everyone to get along and I want them to let their guard down and be willing to open their hearts.

Please, any and all advice would help. I don't want to lose my parents and I don't want to lose my fiancé. I just want the fighting on my parents end to stop.