hh, your husband is abusive. I don't think "talking to him about his binges when he's sober" would do a darned thing except stir up something else for him to be angry about.
Here's the thing--you don't have to wait for him to do something else--something worse--than what he's already done. You have the RIGHT to decide--at any time--that this life is not one that you want for yourself and your kids. You don't need to have a more horrible incident happen. I can virtually guarantee it won't be a "wakeup call" for him, but it might be something that does irreparable harm to you and your kids. Wouldn't it be better to move AWAY from the time bomb BEFORE it explodes?