I have found that many "normal" adults don't know how to socialize or date without having a drink or two to relax. Like I can remember long ago, before drinking was a problem for me (okay, drinking was always a problem for me.. this was during a time when it was temporarily on the back burner) I wanted to get out and meet people during the day in normal situations, not in bars, like maybe in a book store, what's wrong with that??? My buddy Tim said to me, that's just not going to happen because during the day most folks have their guard up, and won't put it down until they go out and have some drinks. The way to meet people is always going to be over a common interest, it's just not going to be alcohol any more.