ScottFromWI

You won't be able to understand it Sam. Not today, not tomorrow, not in a year. She's an active alcoholic and benzo addict and she most likely doesn't even understand it at this point. Her sole purpose in life right now is to get high/drunk and she will do anything she can to support/defend that. Until she decides she wants to get help nothing you can do or say matters unfortunately. I'd strongly suggest you find a way to remove her from your household. Al-anon meetings allow family members to attend, I think taking your daughter out of the house and attenting one might be a good activity to try out. You could also try contacting your local social services to see if there is anything they can do to help.