I drank for 40 years, and almost destroyed my relationships with my Wife and 2 children. I absolutely would NOT accept the primary tenet of the program Alcoholics Anonymous - most (actually it turned out all) my problems were because of a Spiritual Malady.
I did NOT fix myself ... as the book Alcoholics Anonymous says, when the Spiritual Malady straightened out, thru working the 12 Steps of AA, everything straightened out (Improved Miraculously).
If, or when, ALL ELSE fails ... try WORKING the 12 Steps of AA.
RDBplus3 ... Happy, Joyous and FREE ... and it came about thru WORKING the 12 Steps ... It is a PROMISE that EVERYTHING in LIFE will improve