Hi BB,
I'm sorry that you have all the drama going on in your family.
Your therapist is quite right. You have to stop drinking before you can start making things better. It is the foundation that we ALL had to start with before building upon our lives.
Sobriety at first is actually quite self centered at first. It has to be you first, then others later. You have to focus all of your energy on sobriety.
Reach the goal, and you will be rewarded greatly.
Things will seem to fall into place. Obstacles that seemed impossible to get by will only be a normal every day challenge.
You can do this. Get that foundation built, then work from the bottom up.