Thanks, I was just curious. I am trying to be supportive and let's face it, it's simply awkward to sit there with a cocktail knowing the person opposite of you can't do that. My Abf wants so badly to be normal (a big reason he cannot recover) and by all accounts while he could enjoy a beer with me or two and be fine. It wouldn't stop there. Sure, that evening it would, but then in the days and weeks ahead the floodgates would open.
And like I said, I have days and evenings where we aren't together so can still enjoy it. I've just always wondered how regular drinkers handle their own sobriety for the sake of the A partner. It's just another sacrifice I am willing to make. I make a lot of sacrifices for him so perhaps the reason this feels a bigger issue than maybe it should is because I like so many others, have given so much to the A you start to wonder where it stops.