Yes, Al-Anon is TOTALLY appropriate. And many of the most wonderful success stories I know are of people who did NOT wind up in a successful relationship with the alcoholic, but rather built their own beautiful lives on their own, as whole and happy people. You will meet some of those people on this forum and in Al-Anon. Stick with the therapy, too. And remember, just because an alcoholic isn't drinking doesn't make him someone in his right mind. I wouldn't take seriously ANYTHING he says at this point.