d ailystruggle....alcoholics will almost always blame others for those things that they should take responsibility for.
Just because he is tossing you the "blame" ......Don't Take it!!
It looks like you tried for years to fight a loosing battle.....to try to control something that can't be controlled by you. Only he could have dealt with his alcoholism.
Living in the situation, such as you describe, and trying to do the impossible, will turn anyone into the kind of person they never wanted to be like. You can lose yourself in a situation like this!
Please continue to put yourself and your children's welfare first!
There is no way that living in that situation is good for yourself or them....
another thought...there is no relationship that is "meant to be together". We have free will...and we choose which relationships to be in (as adults)...and we chose which relationships to not be in....
We have choices and we must own the consequences of our decisions...good or bad....
Love, alone, is not enough!! If that were true..most of the people on this forum would not be here...lol....
In life, we don't always get to keep those we love. sometimes, loving from a distance is the best that is possible.
I encourage you to get support for yourself....to helo you with your healing and grieving. This is just too much to walk alone.
You didn't cause it. You can't control it. And, you can't fix it...
Just because he says something doesn't make it true!!!!!!!!!!!!