Hi, dailystruggle1, and welcome. You must be heartbroken. Please stay for a while. Lots of experience and wisdom here. Recommend you read the "stickies " posted at the top of the main menu. Good info about the different aspects of alcohol dependency. Someone once said to me, "Sobriety is humble." That can be interpreted in different ways. To me, it means that the drinker recognizes his/her part in things and accepts responsibility. It doesn't sound to me that your partner is there yet. He seems to want to blame you for many things, which, sorry to say, is classic alcoholic behavior. It's always someone elses's fault. The good thing is, he appears to be focusing on his recovery., though not in a way that is positive for you. I do suggest Al-Anon meetings (I am a grateful member, full disclosure.) not for him, for you. Everyone in the Al-Anon rooms has been where you are now. It can help, truly. Good luck. Peace.