Originally Posted by
Dee74 
I worked out a long time ago sometimes people just want a shoulder to lean on, not a fix up, or a solution.
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Absolutely.
Also FEELING people versus just reacting to their words is important.
Try to see how long you can go without talking about yourself in a conversation. I love to tell stories, jokes, and ramble, but I have to check myself and see....is this entetaining me and my partner/ friend...or am I just gratifying myself? If I am just gratifying myself then I stop, create a space for my partner/ friend to speak...and take some time to just listen, only asking very short questions, maybe just making eye contact and letting them talk.