Originally Posted by tursiops999

one concept I found helpful came from the Lifering book ("Empowering your Sober Self"). The idea is that there are two of you -- the one that wants to drink, and the one that wants to be sober. Ambivalence is normal. It doesn't matter that part of you wants to drink. To get sober I just had to choose to side with the part of me that wanted to get sober, and empower that part of me -- do everything I needed to do to strengthen that part, and not follow the other part. So, "wanting to want sobriety" is enough -- if you choose it.