Originally Posted by
Boleo 
Assertiveness certainly plays a roll in recovery. However, it should be reserved for establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries, rather than trying to control others. It can end up increasing resentments and owing others amends for meddling outside of our own boundaries.
"All expectations are seeds for resentments".
(Chuang Tzu)
Can you still get assetiveness training? I watched a couple of alcs go through it years ago, but I haven't heard much of it lately.
At the time I thought it was a brilliant thing to do if you have trouble getting your own way. What could be a better boost to self will? Which is why I didn't bother. Experience has shown me that I end up far better off when I don't get my own way.
Almost every milestone in recovery has been like that. Getting my own way would have resulted in a really second rate recovery.