This is what started happening with my fiance. I'd start having the serious talks with him about his drinking - and I thought I was just reaching out. I'd come home from work to an empty house and he'd ignore my calls and texts all evening and all night. He'd go binge drink and usually show up anytime between the middle of the night to the next day.
The talks only made it worse. He'd accept them and always tell me how much he loved me too... but soon after he'd take off and get so drunk I don't know how he didn't get alcohol poisoning.
Yelling, talking, discussing won't help him or you. Eventually you're saying the same thing over and over again.
He may promise he'll stop- and even mean it at the time, but the next time he wants to drink that promise can and will break.
I highly suggest educating yourself about alcoholism. How the disease affects him, and you- and your children if they live with you most of the time.
Getting to an Al anon meeting would be very beneficial for you as well.
Try to just keep calm and educate yourself.
Sending hugs!