Perhaps, he is just being a normal thoughtful husband?
I hear, in normal relationships husbands may act like this on a usual day, not necessarily when they are needy/guilty/manipulative
Alcoholics in early recovery can be all over the place and very needy - case in point XAH - he goes from hating my guts to offers of shoulder rubs, doing nice things and cooking food for me.
I am learning to not to take any of this personally.