Firesprite-
My ex got a diagnosis with ADD just prior to us separating. It was a part of the relationship that was very challenging for me.
I had to check in with my therapist about it, but I knew that unless I scheduled this particular appt for my husband he would not make it there. It was in the midst of my unraveling my codependent behaviors at the time, knew it was me doing something for someone who was capable of doing it for themselves. In this case though I am glad I did.
Though we did not make it much longer than the diagnosis, I truly think for him it was a big part of his life challenges and even just early treatment seemed to make a big difference in his life.....and it helped me greatly feel more comfortable with communicating my needs even through a painful process.