Hi Dame - perimenopause is rough. Im in it too - and there are times I feel so uncomfortable in my own skin that I would do almost anything to escape it. Red wine was also my DOC.
It doesnt work though! Just ends up amplifying the bad feelings!
The 90 day mark was hard for me - I got really depressed, thoughts of death and all that.
Please hang in there sober! Try to keep your routine simple. If you are in a position to adopt an animal, please consider it. They offer so much affection and uncomplicated, straightforward and loyal friendship! My beagle was my constant companion in the first crazy, sleepless 60 days - we walked for miles, I hugged her and cried, and she curled up beside me in the wee hours of the night.
I saw this ad (I think for Whole Foods) and it stuck with me - it said "Treat your body like someone you love." Maybe try that?