All I can say is THANK YOU for what you all have said. I really do appreciate the plainspeak honesty of it all. This is exactly what I needed - a reality check of sorts. The truth is that I have let my recovery slip. That is entirely my fault. My side of the street to manage. and I haven't. I have re-prioritized other aspects of my life in the false hope that her sobriety would afford me that ability. I have even cut back on my sessions with my therapist b/c I felt I didn't have any material to discuss. Boy, am I wrong. My last therapy appointment this week was one of the best I ever had (and I had planned to cancel it). We talked about me and my feelings instead of what was going on in my house. It was unexpectedly very emotional for me. I was dipping into places I have long avoided.
So again thank you for the words of support and encouragement. But also for the candor and directness. This is exactly what I needed today.