"I'm trying that but NOTHING is changing for me"
welp, I can see that happening if this is all your doing
" take it one day at a time. Not to project or predict the future. To let things unfold naturally"
which I don't think that is all al anon tells ya to do.
if nothing changes then nothing changes.
what ACTIONS are you doing?
NYswimdad, in all honesty, it reads like you had expectations that her getting sober would make you happy and healthy?
have you been working on your communication skills with her?