If people used the "I'm not in love with my spouse" anymore, no marriage would last....just sayin. Love is an action-not a feeling....and sometimes you have to act your way into feelings. All this being said, sometimes you just can't I break what was broken. Maybe time and space would help you figure out a way to move forward, with or without her. Just be careful that you're not equating this to boredom....we Codie's become accustomed toso much drama and if it stops it can be deafeningly quiet. Please consider this and also continue towork on you.