Originally Posted by
pndm07 
Nata you're so right. When ah went on his last month plus long bender my son went from seeing him frequently to not seeing him at all. My son began acting out awfully - to the point where his school called a meeting with me and I had to explain the whole crazy situation. That's why I don't want to revert to that kind of situation again. He sees him now but I don't want him to get too used to it. I hope I have the strength. It's not good for me either.
Sending you positive vibes! Any child would act out in this situation, ASD or not. With my DS, every time XAH relapsed, even when I did not know - I could predict by behavior slip. It's like he knew way before me. He would also ask XAH obsessively "are you ok Dad?" and I could not understand why it made XAH so angry. Little did I know, he felt like his secret relapse was exposed.
The whole chaos and popping in and out with addict parent does a number on kids for sure.
I wish strength to you and your little guy - you can do this!