Nata you're so right. When ah went on his last month plus long bender my son went from seeing him frequently to not seeing him at all. My son began acting out awfully - to the point where his school called a meeting with me and I had to explain the whole crazy situation. That's why I don't want to revert to that kind of situation again. He sees him now but I don't want him to get too used to it. I hope I have the strength. It's not good for me either.