I totally get it. I also think that alcoholic parent is just about the worst kind of parent for a child on a spectrum (any any child for that matter - but ASD kids require consistency and predictability - something that is lacking with A's). Things are so much easier when contact is sparse and only includes fun stuff - like hiking, swimming in the lake.....DS still smells XAH's breath (trying to "hide" it - but is pretty obvious about it). I feel for XAH and his processing difficulties, I really do, but this right here, this breath smelling habit of DS is just confirming that XAH is nowhere near being a good father any time soon. I hope it changes.