pndm.....I think you are doing a good job of facing your situation...and, have come a long way....probably, more than you realize....
Absolutely...it is a full time job to find services and go through the hoops that it takes! It requires inventive thinking and tenacity and focus....and faith and a glass half full attitude. The faint of heart need not apply...lol....
Maybe, if you got a list from Volunteer Services of America....you could jump start your imagination....
If you had different folks who would donate time to go along on shopping trips, and such practical things....it would be such a help. There are lots of organizations that have volunteers who want the gratification of "helping".....
You need some time for just yourself, also.....