Originally Posted by
PennyLane76 
Optimist, that is just ridiculous about the racist remarks, it gets my blood boiling.!
Oswin, SFL, must be so hard when spouses still drinking.
I still am infuriated about mine being laid off and not telling me. He is not a good interviewee and seems to think he has enough in 401k for life. That's absurd and delusional , we have a mortgage and live in an expensive area. Maybe enough to live in a cave and eat mice with our cats until age 85.
Trying to control emotions for now and then see what to do. I will not tolerate him sitting around playing games and expecting me to be breadwinner, housekeeper, etc.
Viper 50 days hoooray!
I'm not surprised you are stressed, the fact he kept it from you is bad enough. Try not to let it stress you out. I know easier said than done. Tell him your not prepared to be the main breadwinner and he needs to get out there and find a new job. I know jobs aren't that easy to find but he at least has to be proactive in finding one.