"He loves drinking," that is a frightening statement in my mind. My AD always tells me alcohol makes her happy which tells me that with that poison as her higher power what chance do I and God have to get through to her. I recommend Alanon as a way to cope and understand what you're going through so that you can make healthy choices for yourself as well as for him. Perhaps living up to your name, Solomio is something to consider. Huge hugs and we care because we've been there.