My sponsor cared little about how I felt and more about what I was doing. Going to a ton of meetings and not drinking were the two action steps that were positively reinforced.
Intertwined with that we began step work - which can't start if I am still engaged in active alcoholism.
At over two years of sobriety I've had a meal with my sponsor around 6 times. We've never just gone and hung out. I consider him today a good friend however.
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