Here is an aspect you may not have thought of. I am at 5 people I knew well that are now dead. I became emotionally invested in two them, both left the program and decided to give drinking another go. They are gone now and it hurts like hell.
If I perceive that the actions of an individual are putting them at a low probability of success I put up an emotional wall. I am friendly, helpful and respectful but the individual will not be allowed into my emotional investment zone. I have seen hundreds come and go. After 1000+ meetings you learn to see what works and what doesn't so I am very careful of people that wish to do AA their way because I simply don't want to get hurt again