Xabf is getting ready to go to the year long program on a great alcohol recovery treatment facility located on a farm. I've been there and have seen it, know the people that work there....great people. I work for the same large organization that runs the place (Only I'm located 80 miles away in the main office).
I've talked with him a few times. Didn't get my landline changed because....I didn't.
He calls crying and saying how he's scared, then the next minute blames me for coming into his life a year ago to try and show him how I got sober. He tells me if I would of just let him alone, he wouldn't be going through this right now.
Then, he tells me that he loves me and is gonna miss me. He's been drunk since he got kicked out of the 30 day rehab a little while ago for drinking there. He's an emotional wreck and leaves in 4 days. His stuff is moved out of his apartment.....he "quit" his job of 24 years, is saying good bye to his family. I realize this is alot for him, BUT.......he brought this on himself.
I'm not sorry that I showed him how God helped me become sober 11 years ago. I believe that He wanted me to do that. Because if xabf continued to drink a 750 of vodka every day like he had been doing for 10 years.....he may not of made it passed this year.
I do realize that when I became involved with him, that's where I made my mistake.
That's in the past now and I've accepted that. I know that I'm not to take his blaming on me now.....personally. I just pray that he goes to this farm because if he doesn't, he'll go to jail for 9 months or more and probably come out worse then he is now.
This could be a major blessing for him to get his life straightened out. But, he's fighting it every step of the way.
I'm taking care of myself by not getting upset and not staying on the phone with him. And, my feelings for him are not the same. I love him as a person....but, that's it.
I just hope that for his sake, he makes this descision to go and choose to be sober. It's out of my hands.