Originally Posted by
Darwinia 
Sounds like you are talking more about fate biminiblue. That is a bit too nihilistic even for me. I have always relied on reason and would like to find reason in steps 2 and 3 too.
No. Fate and control are two totally different things.
Do you not believe that there is a higher part of you that wants what is good for you? Do you not believe that all of us have choices to make and those choices influence our future and/or the way we interact with the world? Or do you believe that you can do anything at all and somehow "fix" it later? That you already see the future and can predict with 100% accuracy what is going to happen?